Asian Dating Tips & Advice

Contents:

How Do I Choose the Right Site For Me?

How to be successful in dating asian women?

Online Dating For Single Men.

The Advantages of Online Dating for Women

Long Distance Relationships - How to Make it Work

How Do I Choose the Right Site For Me?

by: DatingReviews.Asia team

With the explosion of online dating sites has come a virtual smorgasbord of choices. In Asian dating we obviously recognize websites concentrated on dating by region e.g. Chinese dating, Thai dating, Japanese dating, Filipino dating etc. We can also subdivide into free sites (I don’t recommend those but if money is a real concern, they are better than nothing) and large paid sites with many and varied features like chat, IM, matching using profiles, automatic translations, background checks, immigration support mostly appreciated by people involved in long distance and cross-cultural relationships. These sites are also usually backed up with some sort of money back guarantee. The rule of thumb is also that, in most cases, the better, more reputable the dating service, the better quality the member profiles. It’s mostly due to the fact that these services have reward systems and other means to motivate its members to submit nicer, more appealing photos and more descriptive, accurate descriptions.
If you decide to go with free or really inexpensive Asian dating service you should be extremely cautious. The fact that the client is often overseas may lead to misuse of information, security bridges and often fraudulent activities. There is a small percentage of websites also associated with illegal practices like child pornography and prostitution.
So what’s a girl to do? A girl should choose should be careful and choose the site or sites that best fit her needs…

Here are some things to consider:

1. Cost. How much do you want or how much can you spend each month for your membership (s)?
2. Features. Chat, IM, video mail, translations, blogs etc. Which features are the most important to you?
3. Profile matching systems. Is this a feature you really want or would you rather decide who is right for you all by yourself?
4. Outside Events…such as speed dating? See if there are available? If yes, would you be interested?
5. Privacy. Some websites allow you to limit who can view your picture or your profile. Does this matter to you or do you want as wide exposure as you can have?
6. Safety. There are websites who do background checks of all subscribers and certify their age, marital status and background. Would you feel safer using this feature? Make sure that your online transactions and private data are secure.

These are a few things but not all things you should consider when choosing an online dating service or services. This website pretty much did the homework for you so please feel free to flick through our reviews.

How to be successful in dating asian women?

by: DatingReviews.Asia team

Dating Asian woman has always been mens fantasy, but it has never been easier than today. Thanks to internet and global communication dating Asian girls is as easy as clicking a mouse.

There are several things you have to remember before you start dating Asian women and one of them is that most Asian girls that you are going to meet come from a different culture.
There are differences between Filipino culture, Thai, Japanese, Chinese or other but they have a lot in common. Most of these cultures are based on values like honour, respect, generosity etc. I have several hints for you on how to survive the first date and earn enough brownie points to secure next rendez vous.

Be at your best behavior at your first date. Don’t try too hard to be yourself. If you have habits like picking your nose, smoking, drinking too much, burping then the first date is probably not the best time for these things to show.

Be a gentleman. This is the simple receipt and answer to the often asked question – what is that Asian girls really look for in man? Impress your lady by holding the door open for her, letting her in your car, helping her with coat etc. It does not take much effort and guarantees good first impression.

Keep your first date simple. You don’t have to go over your head to plan the first date. That will let you concentrate more on the girl less on making your plan work. Besides you don’t even know yet what the girl likes or even if you going to like her.

Show up on time. Being late almost always turns the woman off. If you know that it’s a bad traffic leave earlier, if you get stuck make sure to call her. Don’t let her wait.

Best place to meet her? Well, it’s definitely you who have to decide. Don’t ever leave this decision to your lady. Asian women are looking for a self confident (not cocky) man who gives them the sense of security and the man that can find himself in any situation. Pick a place were you feel comfortable. If you know much about wine and fine food take her to the good restaurant, if you have great body go to the beach. Simple ideas like that should do the trick. One thing to keep in mind - her being comfortable is more important than you. Give her the sense of security that she is looking for. Chances are she won’t feel safe and relaxed with a guy that she just met where there are no other people around. Don’t take her for a drive to the desert in your black Jaguar or lonely walk in the park at dusk. Leave those romantic spots for later.

At your first date don’t look around for other women. Make your girl feel special. First date is all about gathering points for all the things you do right and loosing those points for small mistakes. You have to learn to play the game and the prize will come.

Do not ever talk down about her culture. Show that you respect her and her heritage. If you notice that she is not too much into discussing her origin just drop the topic. Remember that she is a unique individual and not a whole nation that you talk to. Once again – treat her like someone really special; treat her like a lady that she is and you’ll be fine.

Lastly, showing affection in public is usually a taboo in Asian culture, so my advice would be to refrain from that on a first date. Try to read her body language, don’t force anything. Good-bye kiss is usually fine. Remember, you have to be patient with Asian ladies. If this girl likes you it will pay off, otherwise there is danger you will become ‘first date’ professional and we don’t want that. Stick to these few simple rules, get to know the girl and you’ll be successful in dating Asian ladies.

Online Dating For Single Men

by: DatingReviews.Asia team

No matter what your age, height, weight or physical appearance, there are thousands of women out there eager to meet you and eager for your company…whether short-term or long-term relationships are what you want.  If you have found yourself suddenly “on-the-market” again after a relationship has dissolved or are just too busy with your work to spend a lot of time looking for a lady to keep you company, online dating can open the door to the dating scene for you. 

The good news is that all you need is a computer and an internet connection to get started.  The first thing to do is find an Asian online dating site that fits your needs.  This is where our website comes to rescue. There are hundreds of Asian dating websites out there that will attack you with advertisement from any direction, once you start looking for the one that suits your needs. The fact that advertising is often misleading and that a lot of dating websites are simply a scam should not discourage you. You just simply have to know your ‘enemy’. There are some really good and really bad sites, like with anything else in life. You have to be able to tell one from the other. Flick through our reviews and very soon you will have a pretty good idea what to look for and what to avoid.
I generally don’t recommend the free sites.  The paid sites have a money back guarantee if you aren’t satisfied and the investment is small.  A whole month costs less than one dinner and movie date.

The next thing you need to do is write a killer, but honest, profile and upload a recent but flattering picture of yourself.   Now you are all set.  Start contacting ladies from China, Japan, Thailand or wherever you feel like – we live in the age of global communication – take advantage of it and expand your horizons. Answer any lady who contacts you…and do so promptly…not, however, on holidays or weekends.  You don’t want to appear that desperate.  Don’t give up after a month and think you will never find the right lady for you.  You have to realize that dating a Korean or dating Japanese girls will require from you to show some patience. It is not exactly like dating a girl next door. It’s more of a mysterious adventure into a whole new world (literally). New people join online dating services daily and at least half of them are ladies many, of whom, will want to meet you.

The Advantages of Online Dating for Women

by: DatingReviews.Asia team

In the past, i.e. the 1990’s, online dating was a brand new idea. Unlike today, most people did not own PC’s or even have access to the internet. Times have changed. Online dating is not only IN the mainstream, it IS the mainstream.
There are many reasons for the phenomenal growth of online dating sites and the number of people, men and women of all ages, races and religions who use them as their primary source for meeting people and looking for “the one”.
If you don’t believe me, just ask your friends in the “real” world. If they are honest, most of them will tell you they have or are using an online dating service.

Here are three good reasons why thousands of people sign up for dating services everyday:
1. You can be anonymous. You will never be required to give your real name, address, email address, phone number or place of employment to another online user. You, of course, may do so but only at your own discretion and only when you feel completely safe. You are not required to post a picture of yourself. Posting a picture, however, will get more responses to your profile. So you can surf through the other members on the dating site you have joined with complete anonymity.
2. You have so many more choices online that you do in your brick and mortar world. Before the world of online dating came of age, the choice of friends and even of lifetime partners was limited to those we came in contact with through college or work. No more…the world is your oyster. You can go through hundreds…even thousands of profiles to find the right man for you from countries all over the World.
3. The “safety factor” is the biggest reason of all. An online dating service will never reveal your personal information. You get to choose who has that information and when they have it.

Long Distance Relationships - How to Make it Work

by: DatingReviews.Asia team

Long Distance Relationships - How to Make it Work
by: Rachelle Arlin Credo

Long distance relationships are dreadful. I know this because I'm currently living one. You watch other couples walk down the street hand-in-hand, kissing, etc., everyday and you can't do anything but envy them. So how can a long distance relationship work? How can you keep on loving someone if you can't even see them?

The answer is...it depends on how much you want it to work. True love can overcome any odds thrown in its path if you want it bad enough. So the question is, how do you do it? Well, I do not think that anyone knows exactly how to make it work, but I can certainly provide some points on making it work.

1. COMMUNICATION is the key.

In every relationship, whether near or far, if communication is taken for granted, it can cause the relationship to quiver until it eventually dies a natural death. That's why in any given circumstance, communication has to be given utmost importance. There are so many available media to ensure that the communication stays open. From snail mails and phone calls to chat systems and e-mails or e-cards. These media can be effective means to convey your hearts desires to your loved ones. Let them know about what you've been doing and thinking because in that way they will feel like they are there with you. This will also help you feel close even though you are miles apart.

2. Send off CARE PACKAGES.

It can be anything -- a little gift of flowers; a collection of the letters he has sent you designed artistically into a scrapbook; or your sweetheart's favorite jewelry -- it's really only limited to your imagination. Engaging yourself in this way is beneficial for both of you. You get to concentrate on gathering these items and putting them together, thus keeping your mind off not being together to a certain extent. Your loved one will see how much effort you put into it and how much you care. Even if it is nothing more than a card,it shows they mean enough to you that you can take the time to let them know. It never takes much money to show a little love with a small gift. Trust me, it can melt a heart!

3. Keep yourself BUSY.

You couldn't just sit there and wait 'til he comes back to you. What if he doesn't come back at all and all you did was sit and get your tummy flabby, won't that make you just miserable? You won't just be stunting your growth as an individual in the process but you'd also be developing emotional insecurities. In order to avoid that, you have to focus yourself on other things while waiting. Try to identify your passions. Get in touch with your creative nature. If you are a homebody, you can read tons of books which can help you grow intellectually and emotionally or you can choose to lounge before your computer and surf for hours to learn invaluable things over the internet. It's an endless "ways-to-make-yourself-busy" list and it is up to you to decide whichever you're interested to get involved in. But remember, being "busy" is not an excuse to forget your "special days" and worse yet, your loved one. You're doing it not just to occupy yourself but also to allow yourself to grow even with your lover's absence.

4. HONESTY is the best policy.

The path to true intimacy and connection especially in a long distance relationship is through "total honesty" to each other in the fullest sense of the words. By being authentic and telling your full truth to your loved one about your thoughts, feelings, needs, wants, issues, boundaries, etc., you are gradually building up a zone of confidence and comfort for both of you. This is very essential if you want your relationship to really last. Seeking to avoid conflict and maintain harmony by censoring yourself can work for a while but it won't take much time until your suppressed truth comes out in other ways, such as withdrawal, resentment, "acting out," etc. I know, sometimes, telling your whole truth can be difficult and even scary, but it will result in the kind of relationship that you really want-- a relationship where all the cards are laid in the table.

5. The value of TRUST

Trust is a very fundamental aspect in any relationship. That is because having trust in a relationship takes away doubt. When you trust someone you never have to question their motivation about anything and with mutual trust that relationship is solid. You must learn to be true to the relationship and must never give way to insecurities, strange feelings, suspicions and quick impulses because these will only bring your relationship down. Don't push away negative comments, or advice. Just trust in yourself and your partner. If you two are true to each other and have no hidden motives then you'll be alright. Remember "Love never fails."

6. COMMITMENT is a habit not an achievement

In every relationship, it is a must to be able to learn how to commit and be committed. For most long distance relationships, the very reason why they fail is because both parties couldn't go on with the commitment and they feel too weak to withstand the tribulations of time.If you have committed yourselves to each other without shilly-shallying, then you have a good promise ahead of you.Your commitment to each other will keep the passion alive and the fires burning thus sustaining the growth of the relationship.

7. PATIENCE is a virtue.

Being in a long distance relationship requires being steadfast and persevering. If you aren't this kind of person and you're involved in a long distance relationship, then as much as now, you better try to learn to be patient. Focus your attention on all the positive aspects of the relationship and never give your hopes up. Showing that you value your partner and the relationship and that you are willing to work patiently through it will let them know you truly love them.

8. WEBCAM

This is applicable only for those who have the comfort of having their own personal computers at home.But for those who don't, there are computers-for-rent in cafe's with webcams already attached to the computer system. Having a webcam is actually very fun and exciting. Even if you aren't together but looking at each other's face in the broad screen makes you feel like you're just so close, so near to your loved one. My boyfriend and I use Yahoo messenger to express our emotions with smileys and it's melting my heart to see him smile in the cam when he gets my messages.

9. Make special occasions SPECIAL.

It is not everyday that a special day comes so when it does, it must be celebrated no matter how far apart you are. When I speak of special occasions, I mean birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, New Year and Valentine's Day. During these occasions, you can plan out some heavy-duty phone call or an extended online time for the evening. Regardless of whether you talk every night or a couple times a week, be sure you both carve out some time for that particular night. If you're too stingy to settle on a lengthy phone call, but have cheap and unlimited online access, plan to send instant messages to each other or meet in a private chatroom somewhere. If you can't be together, at least you can be "talking" and "spending some private moments together".

10. ENJOY LIFE!

Not because your loved one is away, it doesn't mean that your "life" is taken away with him as he sets on for greener pastures. You have your own life to live and you must live it up to the purpose you were created for, with or without your loved one.Anyway, we have our family and friends. What are these social beings surrounding us created for anyway?

Remember,there are definite hardships associated with this relationship style but it is important that those who thrive in a long distance relationship see the suffering, difficulties, distance and time as tools in cultivating their love and rearing up the maturity in their relationship. The best you can do is to strive to be the best of who you are as a person while your partner is away so that when he comes back to you, you are already a full-grown individual whom he will love even more and be more proud of more than ever! For now, just be happy in knowing that across the miles there is someone who thinks you are so special, they are willing to engage in a terrible thing such as a long distance relationship. Keep in mind that your suffering is not forever since your loved one will be back soon and when that time comes, everything will be much sweeter than it was back then.

Rachelle Arlin Credo is an entrepreneur and relationship coach. She also works as an image consultant and part-time writer. Her stories, articles, essays and poetry have been published in various magazines and online publications.